PURCHASE: DOES SEX HAVE AN EXPIRATION DATE?
Book Corrections: Countless read-throughs and there are still some errors and omissions.
designer relationship: A multitude of relationship styles and arrangements, navigated with consent of all parties involved. This term was coined by Ken Haslam, founder of the Kinsey Institute’s Polyamory Archive.
Gynecologists & Pelvic Medicine Specialists – Please email firstname.lastname@example.org with name of practitioner you consulted and website of the pelvic pain specialist and/or gynecologist you would like to recommend.
https://centerforpelvicmedicine.com– Specializes in non-surgical approaches to pelvic and sexual health for women. (Full disclosure – I have been a patient of Dr. Susan Kellogg Spadt for over a decade.)
https://www.princetongyn.com – Women’s gynecological healthcare practice. Dr. Maria Sophocles is considered a leader and innovator in volvovaginal health and female sexual medicine. (Full Disclosure – I have consulted with her occasionally.)
https://www.menopause.org/for-women/find-a-menopause-practitioner– listing of NAMS Certified Menopause Practitioners
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5005297/– study showing significant improvement in sexual function, particularly desire.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19090937– Acupuncture significantly reduces pain provoked by vestibulodynia.
https://manylivescm.com/how-to-improve-a-lagging-libido-with-acupuncture/– Explanation of how acupuncture has the potential to improve libido.
https://www.medicalacupuncture.org/Find-an-Acupuncturist– American Academy of Medical Acupuncture referral directory.
https://www.nccaom.org/find-a-practitioner-directory/ – National Certification Commission for Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (NCCAOM®) Acupuncture referral directory.
Chinatown in many larger cities have wonderful Chinese trained acupuncturists. They often do not hold a U.S. certificate, but are quite skilled in the treatment of libido and pain issues. Word of mouth is the best way to find practitioner.
Anatomical Illustrations of Genitalia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoral_erection– erect clitoris
https://www.bishuk.com/bodies/the-clitoris-and-vagina/– clitoris and vagina
http://levitracanada.biz/study-shows-prostate-massage-improves-male-orgasm-and-keeps-cancer-at-bay– male genitalia, prostate – p spot massage
https://www.martyklein.com– Changing the Way People, Politics & the Media Look at Sex
https://joanprice.com– Advocate for ageless sexuality and fitness
http://www.ashleymanta.com– CannaSexual®: Combining sex and cannabis (not necessary to get high) to deepen intimacy and enhance pleasure.
https://www.kinseyinstitute.org– Exploring love, sexuality,
https://www.ncsfreedom.org– Advocate for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities.
http://esensualwellbeing.com – Directed Erotic Visualisation© (DEV©) an immersive audio experience, blending meditation, visualization, and suggestion techniques.
http://www.beingshameless.com– Pamela Madsen is a fearless advocate for women’s health and integrated sexuality.
https://www.tinynibbles.com– Violet Blue offers Open Source Sex. Curated collections of explicit literate erotica, sex news, sex info, links and more. She is an award winning author, columnist and investigative tech reporter. Her bio is on her website, which is most impressive.
http://www.surrogatetherapy.org/what-is-surrogate-partner-therapy/– International Professional Surrogates Association.
http://www.thesexsurrogate.com– Surrogate Partner Therapy
Erotica/Explicit Sex Photography, Art Books
https://www.erotica-readers.com– An international community of men and women interested in the provocative world of erotica and sensual pleasures. This website features original erotic fiction, current calls for submissions, and publishing advice for authors, sex toy and adult movie recommendations, and a forum focused on adult issues, activities and relationships.
https://www.tinynibbles.com/erotica– Dirty Stories for Thoughtfully Dirty Minds
https://chyoa.com– Interactive Erotica — Fiction for Adults
https://www.bellesa.co/story/all– Erotic Stories – short stories and chapters of books.
https://www.frolicme.com/stories/– Free explicit and naughty stories from renown published erotic authors. Various categories are offered.
http://rachelkramerbussel.com– Editor of erotica anthologies and audio books. Rachel also teaches in-person and on-line writing classes.
On-line: Type in “old masters erotica, or Shunga, or erotic photographs,” on the menu bar press on “images.”
https://www.artsy.net/article/editorial-what-is-shunga– Definition of Shunga
https://www.theartstory.org/section-artists.htm– Biographies and analysis of the work of the modern artists whose depictions had a significant erotic component. Click on icons to enlarge.
Hormone Replacement Therapy – Research has shown that how HRT is administered, the type of HRT and when treatments starts all produce different results.
https://www.webmd.com/menopause/guide/menopause-hormone-therapy#1– Research study on Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT).
http://www.shrewsburyobgyn.com/Guide_to_Vaginal_Estrogens_and_Lubricants.pdf– A guide to lotions and potions for treating vaginal atrophy.
https://www.mdedge.com/obgyn/article/63791/guide-lotions-and-potions-treating-vaginal-atrophy– A guide to lotions and potions for treating vaginal atrophy.
https://www.health.harvard.edu/womens-health/what-are-bioidentical-hormones– Description of bioidentical hormones.
https://sexualityresources.com/ask-dr-myrtle/womens-issues-and-sexual-problems/vaginal-renewal-tm– Vaginal Renewal Program – A Woman’s Touch: Sexuality Resource Center
http://dangerouslilly.com/lube-guide/– Ingredients to avoid.
https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/best-homemade-sex-lube-alternatives#slide-1– Homemade lubricants
https://www.mskcc.org/cancer-care/patient-education/vaginal-health#vaginal-and-vulvar-moisturizers– Cancer Survivor’s Best Moisturizer & Lubricants
Marijuana and Sex
https://www.leafly.com/news/health/sex-after-50-cannabis– Article on the potential of Cannabis to increase sexual satisfaction.
https://www.smoa.jsexmed.org/article/S2050-1161(19)30009-1/fulltext– Study shows marijuana has the potential to improve satisfaction with orgasm.
http://www.ashleymanta.com: CannaSexual® : Mindfully and deliberately combining sex and cannabis.
http://dodsonandross.com/index.php/about– Betty Dodson is considered the “Godmother of Masturbation.”
http://dodsonandross.com/sexfeature/first-time-orgasm– Betty Dodson’s guide to having an orgasm for the first time.
Medications with possible side effect of low libido
Consult with your pharmacist prior to having any of your prescriptions filled, to see if it could cause a sexual issue.
https://www.aarp.org/health/drugs-supplements/info-04-2012/medications-that-can-cause-sexual-dysfunction.html– Drugs that can cause sexual problems.
https://www.issm.info/sexual-health-qa/what-medications-might-lower-a-persons-libido/– Medications that have the potential to lower your libido.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19090937– Study showing mindfulness significantly improves several aspects of sexual response and reduces sexual distress in women with sexual desire and arousal disorders.
https://www.consciouslifestylemag.com/mindful-sex-practices/– Mindful Sex:
Powerful Practices for Increasing Pleasure, Connection and Consciousness
http://www.optionmethodnetwork.com/dialogues/dialoguequestions.htm– Option Method original questions.
https://www.morethantwo.com– More Than Two: Franklin Veaux’s Polyamory Site. A website offering a wealth of information pertaining to polyamory and ethical non-monogamy.
www.meetup.com– A good source for finding local polyamory groups.
https://www.lovingmorenonprofit.org– A nonprofit group educating the public on polyamory and ethical non-monogamy through conferences, seminars, webinars and their Loving More magazine.
http://polyweekly.com– Podcast and blog relating to all things poly.
http://www.practicalpolyamory.com– Practical guide to polyamory.
Roleplay & Kink
https://www.lelo.com/blog/explore-sexual-role-playing/– Information about roleplaying and examples.
https://www.lovense.com/bdsm-blog– Kink Closet: In depth information and articles about kink, fetish, and BDSM scenes and products.
https://www.lovense.com/sex-toy-blog– Toy Chest: Information, articles and reviews of sex toys.
http://www.passionalboutique.com: On-line/brick and mortar shop in Philadelphia. Kink classes, clothing and toys/aids.
https://www.kinkly.com/6/8829/sex-tips/bdsm/bdsm-101/4: BDSM tutorial
https://www.kinkly.com/2/1131/beyond-missionary/5-expert-tips-for-getting-your-kink-on: Tips for becoming kinky.
https://shop.kinkly.com: Sex toys/aids
Sex Positions for Physically Challenged Body
https://www.peerwell.co/blog/2016/05/25/sex-after-joint-replacement-surgery-how-to/– Sex After a Joint Replacement: The Definitive How-to Guide.
https://nahealth.com/vvmc-joint-replacement-program/sex-after-kneehip-replacement-surgery– Sex positions after knee/hip replacement surgery.
https://www.popsci.com/article/science/sex-positions-wont-break-your-artificial-hip-according-science#page-2– Sex positions after hip replacement surgery.
Sex Toy Safety
https://www.inverse.com/article/30641-sex-toys-testing-regulations – Article on lack of regulation regarding toxic materials, harmful design flaws, and misleading packaging of sex toys.
https://www.eroscillator.com– Conclusion from Yale University study cited on Eroscillator website: Genital vibratory stimulation device use resulted in uniform improvements in sexual function, satisfaction, sexually related distress and genital sensation.
Read more: https://www.eroscillator.com/eroscillator/yale-university-clinical#ixzz5qNTvkbKt
https://www.mskcc.org/cancer-care/patient-education/how-use-vaginal-dilator: How to use a vaginal dilator.
https://www.vuvatech.com/collections/vaginal-dilators: Vaginal dilator – one size or sets.
https://www.vuvatech.com/collections/vaginal-dilators/products/ohnut-set-of-3-1-bonus-ring– Ohnut (4 adjusting soft rings): Sex aid worn at base of penis to adjust depth of penetration.
https://sexualityresources.com/ask-dr-myrtle/womens-issues-and-sexual-problems/vaginal-renewal-tm: Vaginal Renewal™ Program.
http://www.smilemonalisa.com: Gentle laser treatment for atrophic vaginitis.
https://www.fwhc.org/health/selfcare.htm: Cervical/Vaginal Self Exam instructions
https://www.fwhc.org/sale3.htm#plainspec: Self-Exam Kit
https://www.fwhc.org/sale3.htm#plainspec: Simple Speculum
Sex Toys (Internet & App Enabled – teledildonics) – long (between countries) andshort (between rooms) distance sex toys.
Sexual Pleasuring for Women
http://dodsonandross.com/about– Betty Dodson PhD and Carlin Ross JD launched this site in 2007 to promote the “Betty Dodson” method of selflove and feminist-based sex education.
https://intimateartscenter.com– Pleasure centered site includes books, classes, articles, and coaching.
Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI)
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/stds-hiv-safer-sex– Detailed information about STI’s and treatments.
http://hivinsite.ucsf.edu/insite?page=pr-06-01– Some solutions to the most common condom problems.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WIbca2p6Tb4– How to use a condom and cock ring. Helpful for men with fickle penises.
State Laws and Bans regarding Sex and Romance
https://thoughtcatalog.com/nicole-weaver/2014/11/12-bizarrely-real-laws-about-love-and-romance-in-the-us-that-you-cant-believe-were-passed/– Article: 12 Bizarrely Real Laws About Love And Romance In The US That You Can’t Believe Were Passed
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/gay-marriage-bans– Article: These States Still Ban Cohabitation, Sex Toys… And Gay Marriage
Tantra Articles – Various magazines and websites.
- https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/tantric-sex– How to Practice Tantric Sex: 26 Tips for Masturbation and Partner Play
- https://www.online-tantra.com/tantric-relationships/– Online Tantra: Because Happiness Matters Online Tantra makes tantra accessible.
- https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sexopedia/a8100798/how-to-have-tantric-sex/– How to Have Tantric Sex
- http://sofiasundari.com/how-to-introduce-your-partner-to-tantra/– How Can You Introduce Your Partner to Tantra
- https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-23332/tantric-sex-101-what-it-is-how-to-do-it.html– Tantric Sex 101. What it is and How to Do it
Tantric Sex 101: A Guide for Curious Couples
Tantra Practicioners – Workshops, events, classes (in-person, on-line), coaching, articles.
- Barbara Carrellas- https://barbaracarrellas.com
- Dawn Cartwright – http://www.dawncartwright.com
- Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson – http://tantrapm.com
- Sally Valentine – https://www.drsallyvalentine.com/index.html
Therapists and Treatments for Sexual Abuse
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/sexual-abuse– List of sexual abuse therapists in Psychology Today.
https://www.aasect.org– List of American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) certified professionals.
Videos/films – There are few videos/films at this time that depict older adults enjoying sexual pleasure. This doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the view. These video sites are meant to spark your erotic energy and translate to an interest in expressing yourself sexually. Some of these sites are membership based, but many offer free trailers or a few videos to view before you have to pay to see more. Sometimes several 2 minute trailers is all you need to get sexually triggered.
https://www.abbywinters.com– Wholesome young amateur women alone, together, and with their boyfriends.
http://candidaroyalle.com– Pioneer of couple centric erotic cinema.
https://brightdesire.com/tour/– Feminist porn for women and men. Here you’ll find a different kind of porn: re-visioned, feminist, artistic and positive.
https://www.frolicme.com/films/– Erotic films and sexy videos for women, couples and discerning men. (2 minute trailer for each full length film free)
https://xconfessions.com– Many types of sexual fantasies come to life in award winning films. Soulsex with John & Annie
https://xconfessions.com/film/soulsex-with-john-and-annie is one film acted by older adults. ErikaLust produces women/couples centered, feminist porn.
https://www.bellesa.co/video/all– Free videos with the option to choose categories (type of sex you wish to watch). Sensual (soft porn) to rough (wild) and everything in between.
https://sparkerotic.com/home/trailers/– “Authentic, to us, means sexuality that is real and between people who are actual lovers, not strangers. All of our team have relationship and friendship with each other and many are committed couples. You can feel the difference because they can.”
https://www.sexart.com– Erotic cinema for discerning adults – romantic porn.
https://sssh.com– Feminist porn for women and couples.
https://lustcinema.com– Erika Lust, is an award winning Swedish writer and director of erotic/porn films.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19912493– Study: Higher improvement in libido, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, satisfaction, and pain for older women after completion of yoga sessions.
https://www.doyouyoga.com/7-fabulous-yoga-poses-to-your-increase-libido/– Yoga poses to increase libido.
https://www.thealternativedaily.com/yoga-poses-to-improve-libido/– Yoga poses to increase libido.
Anal Pleasure and Health, Jack Morin
Bed Talk, Phone Sex, Sexting
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction, Jay Wiseman
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism,Philip Miller and Molly Devon
Exploring BDSM: A Workbook for Couples (or More!) Discovering Kink, Ms Morgan Thorne
Getting the Sex You Want, Tammy Nelson
Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America’s Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship, John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman
Designer Relationships / Non-Monogamy / Open Relationships / Polyamory / Swinging
Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships,Mark A. Michaels, and Patricia Johnson
More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory, Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert
Opening Up, Tristan Taormino
Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships, Christopher Ryan, Cacilda Jetha
From Madness to mindfulness, Jennifer Gunsauluus
The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin
Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure, Sheri Winston
Let Me Count the Ways: Discovering Great Sex Without Intercourse, Marty Klein, Riki Robbins
Partners in Passion:A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy and Long-Term Love, Mark A Michaels and Patricia Johnson
The Heart of Desire: Keys to the Pleasure of Love, Stella Resnick
Writing to Overcome Sexual Abuse
Writing Ourselves Whole, Jenny Cross