As if we needed another good reason to have sex: Study shows sex makes you smarter – if you’re a rat. Certain there will be abundance of human candidates for the next study.
http://www.plosone.org/article/info%3Adoi%2F10.1371%2Fjournal.pone.0011597
Another blog discusses virtual sex and whether the results would be the same. Institute for Ethics and Emerging Technologies.
http://ieet.org/index.php/IEET/more/kuszewski20100723/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaig
The emotional component has not been added that is where life and results always get a bit tricky. Another thought, would day dreaming have similar results? If yes, some day I’m certain to become brilliant.
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Yesterday reminded me just how sensual water can be. I spent a long while in a swimming pool with a dear friend, in sensual play mode. The water added to our already heated moment.
Our bodies felt different, lighter, allowing us to maneuver in ways that would have been awkward or impossible on land. No matter what your weight, water is kind and you feel so much lighter.
Waterplay never felt so wonderful.
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Intimacy as a daily practice.
1. Relational Esteem……..analogous to individual self
esteem……”I am not perfect, I screw up, but I hold myself in high
regard despite my shortcomings”
2. Relational Speech…….Buddhist “right speech” Non Violent
Communication, or some other model of honest, kind directness;
remembering I am speaking to a person I love.
3. Relational Listening……Deep listening without defensiveness or
without “reloading” while the other is speaking…..not multitasking,
presence and focus when listening.
4. Relational Integrity: You don’t both get to be jerks at the same
time, you have to take turns.
5. Negotiation The respectful search for a win-win solution in
the face of disagreement.
6. Resources The appropriate use of external
supports……friends, clergy, therapists, family, 12 step, etc….It
takes a village to raise a relationship.
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Last night I witnessed some entertainment that left me sad. I love good Burlesque, but find it difficult to enjoy any entertainment that exploits. A very small women, 27″ did not seem to be enjoying her role of entertaining in burlesque fashion. I had seen her perform at a distance previously and it felt different. But up close I felt almost a sense of humiliation. People were being entertained more because of her deformity than her performance. A fine line, lots of gray areas in life.
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Please view my posting at http://theeroticsalon.com/
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Spent an evening with Monica Day and Sam Gedal, mini-workshop on the Sensual Life. Learned flirting techniques I already knew, but it was nice to connect with new folks.
I realized what is considered flirting is truly just being in the present.
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http://www.salon.com/life/feature/2010/08/16/teen_sex_and_grades/index.html
http://hosted.ap.org/dynamic/stories/U/US_MED_TEEN_SEX_ACADEMICS?SITE=WDUN&SECTION=HOME&TEMPLATE=DEFAULT
…but are we only interested in grades for our kids? Higher grades might mean college, higher grades might mean better college, higher grades might mean ultimately more $$$.
However, when asked what people want most in life the word happiness appears, and that does not depend on $$$. So the question that needs to be researched is whether sex as teenager brings immediate happiness and later in life.
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One of the co-authors of the book in the title above, Christopher Ryan has written a short piece for CNN Opinion entitles: Monogamy unnatural for our sexy species. A most interesting read. http://www.cnn.com/2010/OPINION/07/27/ryan.promiscuity.normal/index.html
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Sexting, sextortion, this would not be an issue if we taught our kids good sexual decision making. Unfortunately, many parents are not great role models when it comes to sexuality. They’re too afraid to talk about sex.
Even people who enjoy erotica often are uncomfortable discussing sexuality with their children. Erotica and sex talks are not the same.
If you are reading this blog you have access to the Internet. Go tohttp://sexuality.org/books.html under Sexuality and Parenthood you will find several selections to help you get started talking. There is no “having the talk” it is a constant conversation.
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This past year I witnessed an enormous change in my 93 year old chosen mom when she was diagnosed with vitamin D deficiency. He malaise and minor leg pains all but disappeared once she started taking large doses of this supplement.
You can overdose on this vitamin, it is suggested you get tested first especially if you are a person of color.
The article at this link talks about its benefits: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/08/100809133325.htm
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