02.Sep.2010 Fundamentals of Ecosexology, cont’s. Amy Marsh
Amy is treading on new territory, interesting framing of sexuality. A few days earlier I published the first half of this article.
01.Sep.2010 Lorna Crozier, erotica for older adults
I have mixed feelings about this video. Watch and comment please.
31.Aug.2010 Kissing
Good article on kissing
http://thesituationist.wordpress.com/2008/02/12/the-situation-of-kissing/
28.Aug.2010 Banned Books, American Library Association
Great site for listing of banned books. http://www.ala.org/ala/issuesadvocacy/banned/aboutbannedbooks/index.cfm
I advocate preserving the First Amendment.
27.Aug.2010 XFS Song Shuffle
It’s official, Monica Day and I shall be performing a dialogue (Dance of Intimacy) as part of the Philly Fringe Festival. September 10, Friday, the XFS Song Shuffle will be held at the World Cafe Live, downstairs. Capacity 300 and they always sell out. So get your tickets early. Sorry I don’t get any comps., so you have to pay your own way.
Monica has written a great dialogue concerning intimacy, I know you will like it.
26.Aug.2010 Fundamentals of Ecosexology, Sexecology
Out of the loop, never heard these names before. Dr. Amy Marsh, graduate of IASHS, my alma mater explains them quite clearly in her article for Carnal Nation.
25.Aug.2010 Strap-on for heterosexual woman, First Person Summer GrandSlam Winner
This is a true story. http://www.firstpersonarts.org/ My personality would be comfortable with this approach to seducing a man. But I’d like to hear your stories.
Women, how do you enjoy seducing a man? A woman?
Men, what was the best seduction you ever experienced?
24.Aug.2010 Study – Sexual Experience Promotes Adult Neurogenesis, Having Sex Makes you Smarter
As if we needed another good reason to have sex: Study shows sex makes you smarter – if you’re a rat. Certain there will be abundance of human candidates for the next study.
http://www.plosone.org/article/info%3Adoi%2F10.1371%2Fjournal.pone.0011597
Another blog discusses virtual sex and whether the results would be the same. Institute for Ethics and Emerging Technologies.
The emotional component has not been added that is where life and results always get a bit tricky. Another thought, would day dreaming have similar results? If yes, some day I’m certain to become brilliant.
23.Aug.2010 Sensual swimming
Yesterday reminded me just how sensual water can be. I spent a long while in a swimming pool with a dear friend, in sensual play mode. The water added to our already heated moment.
Our bodies felt different, lighter, allowing us to maneuver in ways that would have been awkward or impossible on land. No matter what your weight, water is kind and you feel so much lighter.
Waterplay never felt so wonderful.
22.Aug.2010 Intimacy – Daily Practice
Intimacy as a daily practice.
1. Relational Esteem……..analogous to individual self
esteem……”I am not perfect, I screw up, but I hold myself in high
regard despite my shortcomings”
2. Relational Speech…….Buddhist “right speech” Non Violent
Communication, or some other model of honest, kind directness;
remembering I am speaking to a person I love.
3. Relational Listening……Deep listening without defensiveness or
without “reloading” while the other is speaking…..not multitasking,
presence and focus when listening.
4. Relational Integrity: You don’t both get to be jerks at the same
time, you have to take turns.
5. Negotiation The respectful search for a win-win solution in
the face of disagreement.
6. Resources The appropriate use of external
supports……friends, clergy, therapists, family, 12 step, etc….It
takes a village to raise a relationship.